March 20, 2003 - 12:02 am 4 Comments

I don’t know what to do anymore. The three year old won’t go to sleep and screams at the top of her lungs for an hour when it’s naptime or bedtime. The 18 month old wakes up 4 times in the night. I feel that I’m on the edge of some kind of breakdown. There’s something stretched constantly tighter inside of me and it’s straining and groaning towards a snap. I’m always on the verge of throwing up. My hands are shaking and I cry at the most inappropriate moments. I think I’m going crazy.

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  1. RC Says:

    Please, please find someone to give you some quiet time. For yourself and your kids. There has to be someone that can watch the kids for a couple hours.

    RC

  2. JenBen Says:

    You’re stressed and your hormones are out of balance due to lack of sleep. You need sleep. It’s a primary biological function. Also look into taking a liquid complex Vit. B. It does not take the place of sleep but it might reduce the shaking and vomiting/crying feeling.

    BTW, I am not a doctor. I just play one on the web. 😉

  3. Kathryn Says:

    Oh my dear. Yes, you need sleep. And I wonder if perhaps the children ought to be assessed for anything which might cause such unrest. I’m not a mom so I don’t know if this is “normal” behavior for an 18 month or a 3 year old.

    Would you like to come over and take a nap here? I’m serious. We have an extra bed and it’s nice and quiet. A Sunday afternoon nap might refresh you.

  4. Edward Says:

    Hi. I’m a single father of three boys, ages 6, 4, and 3. Raising a faimily is hard work, and I have a few tips that may help you out.

    #1. Take naps when your children do.
    #2. At night, after they are asleep, make for bed ASAP. Tidy up, grab a warm bath, go to bed. Don’t try to stay up for “me” time.
    #3. Rise early – an hour or two before the children. I’m usually up about 5am. This is your “me” time. Coffee, computer, television, whatever. You’ll be awake, relaxed, and ready for work and the remainder of the day.
    #4. If you can, allow your youngest to sleep with you. Children will eventually migrate to their own bedroom when they feel safe. By keeping your young one near you, you can reach over and comfort them when they wake in the night.
    #5. NO SUGAR. NO CAFFEINE. Water with meals. Fruit as snacks. Candy on special occasions, and early in the day. This will save you ever so much heartache.
    #6. Celestial Seasonings Sleepy Time Tea. Add a bit of honey and serve about an hour before bed. You could probably use some too 🙂
    #7. Chores. Get them to help you tidy up. Even the youngest can help. It also helps to rid them of excess energy.
    #8. Find a friend. Someone that will watch the kids for an hour or two while you make groceries or go shopping. You don’t really need a sitter for this, you could swap out with a friend that has children; you watch theirs once a week, they return the favour. Just being alone for an hour or two a week is bliss.
    #9. Work. If you can find a job that will work a schedule around your family, take it. The right job will actually be a stress reliever. You’ll feel productive during the day and not constantly beseiged by the demands of little ones.

    I love my children dearly, but they can be quite stressful at times. I know what you are going through and you have my sympathy. You can make it through this stage of your life without having a breakdown. One day at a time. One step at a time. Breathe deep, and exhale slowly.

    It’s all going to be okay 🙂