On a lighter note
I ran across the “Imponderables” site a few days ago. I enjoyed the books, but haven’t had time to read through the site. I did notice a question – “Why do women tend to drop hints rather than ask questions or for favors directly?”.
Well, tell you what. My daugher is three years old and she does this already. “Boy, I sure like jellybeans.” “Noggin is a good TV channel, you know? I sure do like to watch Noggin.” “I loooooooove going to Grandma’s house.” “Bubbles are fun to play with.” “I wonder if there are any bugs outside.”
All are pretty easy to translate except maybe for the last – we have had a horrible mosquito problem and told her she can’t play outside because there are too many bugs.
I’m sure hub and I do plenty of hinting around to get what we want. Who doesn’t, really? Otherwise it would seem that you’re too demanding. By casting subtle hints, it puts another person in the position of “freely” offering something. But kids aren’t worried about being demanding. Obviously. I think it boils down to aping parents’ behavior.
July 12th, 2003 at 11:23 am
You have always been the Queen of Subtle Hints, I think. *grin*
July 12th, 2003 at 4:30 pm
I am the exact opposite. My family is so clueless that if I don’t ask them directly for something, it never gets done. I’d rather be demanding (but I don’t relate demanding with being a bitch or a nag) than resentful of them for never understanding me. They’re not mind-readers, I’m not a mind-reader. But that’s just me and I’ve never really been the subtle type. Life’s too short to wait for other people to catch up to me.
July 14th, 2003 at 10:45 am
HA! Funny…this weekend, an old friend kept calling my 4 year old the queen of beating around the bush….she does the “I’m thirsty mama” and then about a minute later “I like Pepsi mama”. Hhhmm..hint hint. 🙂